A few months back, one of the Ninepatch questions was, “If I could change one thing about myself….” Malaina (Mar. ’15) has a couple of thoughts on that subject.

If I could effortlessly change one thing about myself it’s temper, temper, TEMPER!

I have children in high school. You’d think I’d know better to keep my temper in check. And, in some ways, I can keep my feelings stomped down a whole better than I could many years ago.

On the other hand, some times, it has a slow rise to the boiling point. Other times, all I have to do is walk near a table or chair and those inanimate objects “stick” out their legs just to see me trip!

Over the last several years, I have learned to stop, “breathe” and relax–which helps in so many circumstances. But, there are times when I have to go outside to the barn, hit something like a big cardboard box. Hitting the empty thing with a shovel releases a lot of pent-up angst.

Another saying–although it’s more a prayer–I try to apply is: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

Things that cannot be changed can be avoided or I look for a way to live around them. When there is something that can be changed, I summon courage and jump in with both feet.

One of the many things I have learned is to avoid people who have angered me, lied to me, or stabbed me in the back. Sometimes, there is no way to avoid those people, but they have just as much right to be in that location as I. When that happens, I can smile, greet them, and just get away.

The wisdom to know when to do either is another matter. I cannot change a person. People change themselves from within. The wisdom comes with understanding life experiences, within myself.

It all works.

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